Being too accommodating in a relationship
I think it would have been better off if I had ended it much earlier and moved on. My natural inclination was to let the friendship fade away, but after careful consideration, i confronted her and we sorted it out. If it is not truthful and not helpful, don’t say it. Often we say this or that is what upsets us, but actually it is something far deeper.For example, you are arguing with your spouse about them being selfish supporting this with certain events that have happened and their behaviour. There's a big difference between imagining what's hot, and actually getting what's hot. It's quite possible that she's not capable of making you happy -- but because you imagined it, there's DEFINITELY someone else out there who's WAY cuter! There were many times I felt badly hurt and neglected and ignored. The whole new age movement is all for cutting people who don’t add to your happiness or success. Many life coaches, positive thinking representatives and personal growth guru’s are quite clear about how negative people drag you down. But yet there is that niggling at the back of my mind which has a problem with this approach. I believe that the people in my life are there for a reason.
Furthermore, at least 50% of the responsibility lies with me.
Conflict certainly tests those boundaries and confrontation is never easy.
People are generally not aware of what they say or how they behave.
I usually get caught up in my own stuff and react and stress and fight.
But once the dust has settled, I ask myself, does it really matter?