Dating hot and cold men
I’ve some women who ask me about the dangers of dating “players”.
And they ask me questions like, “How do I avoid falling for their lies?
So now your desire to talk to him has increased dramatically, even to the point of obsession, IF you don’t understand what he’s doing and why.
And…then the cycle repeats itself until, he figures, you sleep with him. Kind of just a really simple technique that works on some women.
Nothing about their flirting style is real and so they’re not serious long-term relationship material.
So if you’re not interested in what these guys provide (which is sex and mind games) DON’T fall for the cycle. Nah, never going to go anywhere because you can’t change a man from what he is or what he wants in a relationship. If they did, they wouldn’t be “playing.” Now the complicated part comes with option (2) where you really do like him but you know he’s playing you, since he’s doing the Hot and Cold thing.
Yes, of course you’re going to like the guy because he will do everything he can to entertain you, impress you and make good conversation. If your desire is to “change” a player and make him fall in love with you and to turn him into a good boy, then I just can’t give you any specific encouragement. And you don’t care, when you sense that he doesn’t care. Do NOT under any circumstances sleep with him, even if it feels right.
I really think the whole concept of “changing a man” is flawed. Challenge him, by ignoring his “cold phase.” Essentially, you play cold with him when he plays cold with you. Because that’s the only leverage he will have on you when it happens.
So the best thing to do is to determine if your hot and cold guy just wants sex (meaning he’s not ready to change) or if he’s really at that point where he could open his heart.Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…One minute he’s very into you, very charming and attentive, and the next minute he becomes distant, surly and maybe even a little rude. Lots of “hot” attention or love-bombing in the beginning and then a sudden and abrupt STOP.Now that all the attention is gone, you’re left wondering what you did wrong.