Jewish dating advice for man
The Gemara (Sanhedrin 7a) makes this observation with a clever quip: “When our love was strong, we could lay comfortably on the edge of a sword.
However, now that our love is not as strong, even a bed that is 60 cubits long is not big enough!
Of course one very important relation is the spouse.
The reader may be familiar with the concept that Jewish marriage is accomplished in two stages, erusin and nisuin.
With this introduction, we can now proceed to the heart of the matter.
The Gemara Sanhedrin (28b) rules that a wife through erusin is also considered a relative and one may not testify about her, even though it is not a fully complete marriage.
Similarly, although we cannot make ourselves into new people, we could make efforts to be more unpredictable in our relationships.In part, this seems to be due to our biological destiny.In a new relationship, our bodies are endowed with health and vigor to help propel and motivate us toward the task of bearing offspring.The giving of the ring, along with the groom stating “Harey at etc.” effectuates erusin.And, the chuppah, or perhaps going into a private room subsequent to the chuppah, effectuates nisuin.