Struggle with dating as a single mom
Here, I've shared their strategies that are helping me get back out there—maybe they'll help you single mamas, too! And now, good grief, there’s dating to think about too?! However, after hearing dating strategies from a couple single moms, a mom-to-be, and a licensed therapist, I’ve found it might not be so bad after all.
Deal, a licensed marriage and family therapist, feels single parents “need an objective measure of the qualities, attributes, and character of a potential partner.” He also stressed the importance of knowing the “silhouette of the type of family you’re hoping to create.” In other words, if the person doesn’t work well with your family, don’t force it.She’s practical and doesn’t sweat the small stuff If there’s one thing dating a single mom teaches you, it’s that they are the definition of capable.As writer Jennifer Ball says “We bring home the bacon, we fry it up in the pan, we clean the pan...hell, we bought the pan.'' If you’re looking for a delicate princess who wants you to wait on her every whim, keep right on walking."It’s not ' I want a family' it’s ' I want a baby,' and it took a lot of the pressure off of dating when I thought of things that way.” Jill agreed, adding "being a single mother takes the pressure off dating because before, I was looking for a potential mate to help me make my family.” Diana P.*, a 39-year-old mom of a toddler, is adamant about speaking on the phone first. "I don’t want to pay for a babysitter if I’m going to find out in five minutes after meeting someone that I’m not interested. ” Diana says she simply got a bad feeling when speaking to one guy over the phone.She mentioned on the call that she lives across the street from a park and suggested they meet there for a first date.